Cooking for a Date With Allergies or Dietary Needs

Getting someone's dietary needs right is one of the most caring things you can do in the kitchen. Getting them wrong can range from disappointing to dangerous. Here's how to handle it with confidence.

Ask early and specifically

When you invite someone, ask: "Is there anything you don't eat or are allergic to?" If they mention an allergy, ask how severe it is and whether trace amounts are a problem. People appreciate being asked far more than they mind answering.

Read every label

Allergens hide in stocks, sauces, spice blends and curry pastes. Check the label of every packaged ingredient, including "may contain" warnings. If you're unsure about an ingredient, leave it out or choose a different recipe.

Avoid cross-contact

• Wash boards, knives, pans and your hands before you start.
• Cook the allergen-free dish first, or use separate equipment.
• Don't reuse oil or water that has touched an allergen.
• For a severe allergy, consider making the whole meal free of that allergen.

Recipes that are naturally inclusive

• Vegetarian: Creamy Mushroom Risotto, Shakshuka for Two, Handmade Tagliatelle with Brown Butter & Sage
• Vegan: Spaghetti Aglio e Olio (without cheese), Pomegranate-Rosemary Spritz
• Gluten-free: Pan-Seared Ribeye with Red Wine Pan Sauce, Seared Scallops with Lemon Brown Butter, Crème Brûlée for Two
• Dairy-free: Thai Green Curry with Shrimp, Gambas al Ajillo (Spanish Garlic Shrimp)

The Date-Night Menu Builder lets you filter by diet so every course fits.

This guide is general information, not medical advice. For severe allergies, follow the guidance of the person's doctor and keep the conversation open: they know their needs best.